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Video Transcribed: Hello, I’m Dad’s rights attorney Jason Lile. I wanted to talk to you today about something that commonly comes up in my practice and it’s one of the more difficult things to deal with in a custody, paternity, or divorce case with regard to children, and that is that when those relationships end that generates those cases, there is often a lot of conflicts.
And one of the ways that this conflict manifests itself is that you will find that the other party is talking badly about you to your children, their family, or their friends. And when that happens, it’s actually a very destructive process that we as family law attorneys and judges call alienation.
So what can you do if you suspect or you know that your child is being alienated against you, meaning that their opinion of you is being shaped and their opinion of where they want to stay is being shaped or guided by negative comments about you? Whether they’re true or not.
So that first distinction is very important. Maybe they are true, maybe you have behaved poorly as this relationship fell apart. It’s important to know that that shouldn’t exclude you from having custody or visitation, equal custody or visitation with your children.
That is an adult matter that should only be discussed between adults or in the courts and it’s something that children should be shielded from. And if the other party is guilty of not shielding that child from that or actively informing the children of things that aren’t appropriate to share with children, then you need aggressive representation to push back against that alienation.
It’s very difficult to gather evidence about alienation and only an experienced attorney would know how to gather that evidence, preserve that evidence, and best present it to the court. It’s even possible that you might need an expert in that area, a psychological expert, and you need an attorney that has good relationships with people who do that kind of work here in Oklahoma because not every case, in fact, it’s relatively few cases that require that.
So if you feel like you’re being alienated from your relationship with your children, pre-filing or post-filing or you have any other family law matter that you would like advice about, I’m the Tulsa Child Custody Attorney for Men Jason Lile and you could feel free to contact the Tulsa Fathers Rights Lawyer at Dads.Law.