Learn the Elements of Your Family Law Case
Video Transcribed: Hello, I’m Oklahoma Dad’s rights attorney Jason Lile. And I wanted to discuss with you, briefly, one thing and one aspect of a divorce or a paternity case that really needs to be addressed so that you have a strong position in court, and also, so that your children benefit as much as possible from your work post-divorce.
And while that doesn’t strictly fall within the province of legal advice, as a family law attorney, it is definitely something that I speak to my clients about because, ultimately, it could be used against them in court if you’re not concerned with these things and actively demonstrating that concern.
So specifically, what can you do to help your children deal with the transition? Well, in Oklahoma, you do have to take a class. It’s called helping children cope with divorce, or it might have a slightly different name.
That class can often be taken online these days. And in addition to taking that class and showing the certificate and filing that with the court, you can also rest assured that you will always benefit from getting counseling for your children in the sense that the court will look at that and see that as you looking out for the best interest of your children.
And really, the most difficult thing that you can do is to look at your family law case, less as a conflict, and more as something seeking a resolution where you and your ex can just peacefully coexist.
Obviously, you don’t have to be friends. You don’t have to stay with that person. You don’t have to concede important legal points. But ultimately, if you cannot communicate with that person and you cannot make decisions about those children together, even if you don’t like each other, it will really make it hard on your children. And frankly, when you cannot communicate and make decisions together, you put it in the hands of a judge.
The judge does not know your children. The judge really doesn’t know the two parties. And oftentimes, family law judges’ decisions are unsatisfactory, not because they’re bad decisions, but because you didn’t make them.
For some reason, you couldn’t work it out that you made that decision. So really, the best thing that you could do post-divorce or post-separation is to find some way to communicate with your ex and make those decisions together and to learn the elements of your case. I’m the Tulsa Child Custody Attorney for Men Jason Lile and you could feel free to contact the Tulsa Fathers Rights Lawyer at Dads.Law.