Reach an Agreement with Your Child’s Mother
Video Transcribed: My name is Attorney Jason Lile, and I am an Oklahoma Dads Rights lawyer. And I wanted to discuss something with you that, as a father seeking to enforce their rights is of great concern to you. And that is to get equal time with your children.
You should know that the Oklahoma law states that, and the judges will behave such, or they should, that the starting point for parents is split time. What does that mean? That means that you should have as much visitation time with your child or children as your ex-wife.
Now, oftentimes, fathers come to me when they need representation. They are afraid they’re not going to get that. Or they want more time than that for many reasons. Because they feel like their ex can’t handle it, or they feel like that’s been traditionally given to women, and why shouldn’t they have more than 50-50 times?
So, a good attorney should be able to advise you that that’s your right, and that’s where the court should start, and advise you what factors might affect you getting more or less than 50-50 time, help give you some realistic expectations as to how those factors might play out in court.
For example, if you’re a truck driver and you’re on the road a lot, you can argue in court 50-50 times, but the reality is, is that you can’t actually exercise that. If in reality, practically speaking, you can’t exercise 50-50 times, and there’s an attorney worth a darn at all on the other side, they’re going to point that out and it’s going to affect your ability to get 50-50 times.
So, it may be that you have to change jobs or adjust your schedule in your job. It often works that affects us. If you work during the day and are up at night, or vice versa if you work nights. If you work nights, then there’s nobody to stay with your children at night, which will also affect your time.
Now, when should you get more than 50-50 times? Well, if those practical reasons are on the other end and your ex-wife or girlfriend are the ones that have a work schedule issue, then you should get more than 50-50 times. And that includes if you have to put the children in daycare so that you can work during the day, the 50-50 time has to do with overnights.
If they can spend the night at your house overnight. So, to start out 50-50 times and discuss with your attorney how the factors in your life that might affect are going to play out in court is a very important part of your case.