Have Your Ducks in a Row
Video Transcribed: Hello, my name is Jason Lile and I am a Father’s attorney in Tulsa. And I’d like to talk to you today about getting a divorce when you have children and as the father, how it is that you can avoid losing custody of your children.
When I give advice to all litigants and especially fathers, I will often bleed over into what seems like personal advice, but to an experienced attorney, such as myself and I have done many litigations with regard to family law and represented thousands of clients, it eventually starts to become clear to me what it is that an individual and especially a man should do in order to make sure that if they need to go to trial or during the representation that they have a strong position with regard to at least joint legal custody. And in some cases, sole legal custody.
One of the things that you can do to avoid losing your children in a custody battle is to make sure that you have your ducks in a row. There are certainly more important ducks than others, and one of them is your housing situation.
You need to be able to present to the court what your housing situation is, and that it’s in the best interest of the children that they spend time there. And a good attorney should help you prepare that information to present to the court or the opposing counsel.
And the second situation that you need to be prepared for is anybody else in your life. Is it a girlfriend? Is it a paramour? And how should you go about making sure that you’re in the best position during this litigation to say, yes, I should have so, or joint legal custody of this child or these children?
Your financial position. Are you employed? How long have you been employed? What’s your plan for the future? And once again, an experienced attorney should present this information in a way that tells the court in the most forceful possible way or the opposing counsel that, yes, I am someone who is fit and prepared to have joint legal custody or sole legal custody of these children.
And in the case of you requesting sole legal custody, you also need to add to that what it is about the other parent that might make them unqualified at the moment, if not permanently, to have joint legal custody with you over this child or these children.
This comes up many times in a way that the father is scared that they might lose on that issue. And it helps to have an experienced attorney in your corner to help you and fight for you to have joint or sole legal custody of your children. If you’d like to know anything else about this, feel free to contact me the Tulsa Child Custody Attorney for Men at dads.law.