An Attorney Has an Impact on Your Case
Video Transcribed: Hello, I am the Tulsa Dad’s Attorney, Jason Lile. I wanted to talk to you dads out there and you men out there who might be going through divorce or separation or paternity about a red flag that comes up with me as an attorney when I am perspectively considering representing a client. And here’s what it is.
If a client says to me, “Are you going to aggressively represent me? Are you going to fight for me?” Well, I just want to clear up something. Yes, of course. If you don’t have an aggressive representation, then you probably don’t have the right attorney. If someone’s not going to fight for you, then you probably don’t have the right attorney. But you need to understand that that probably means something different when it comes to judges and the court system and attorneys than it does to you.
If we were hanging out at a bar and someone was picking on you, am I going to fight for you? Well, that means one thing. But in court, it means something very different. And here’s what I’m talking about. It is, in the family law court system, advantageous to be nice until it’s time not to be nice. If you are showing the court that you are cooperating with the other side and that you are being accommodated and that you are trying to co-parent with the other parent, then that will help your case.
By advising you, for example, to be cooperative and to communicate and to co-parent with that person and to be accommodating, then I am fighting for you. I am aggressively representing you. And that doesn’t mean, however, that when push comes to shove, if that doesn’t work and it’s time to go to court and lace up the gloves and have a hearing or a trial, that I’m not going to be aggressive. I have often said that I’m nice until it’s time not to be nice.
So one way in which I wanted to educate you about how to shop for a good lawyer is that you need a lawyer who can do both. If your lawyer is blustery and screaming all the time and just ready to go to war every second of every minute of every day, that will not likely end well for you in court. And after over a dozen years of experience primarily as a family law lawyer, and almost 20 years of experience being an attorney, I can tell you that I am giving you that advice based on experience.
But if you find an attorney who you think can both do the nice until it’s time not to be nice, give you advice as to how to strengthen your position through cooperation and good behavior, and then be ready to lace up the gloves if that doesn’t cut it and that doesn’t settle the case, well, then you’ve found the right attorney for you. If you have questions about this or any other family law matter again, my name is attorney Jason Lile, and I am a Tulsa Child Support Attorney For Men, you can reach me at Dads.Law.