There are Positive and Negative Reactions for Children of Divorce

Video Transcribed:  Wondering how your child would react to divorce? I’m a Fathers Rights attorney in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and this is my segment on how children react to divorce.

The negative effects of the actual divorce have been greatly exaggerated over time. Divorce has some positive effects for children. Single parents tend to have better relationships with their child. Children have usually two celebrations for each holiday.

If parents remarry, there are more adult nurturers in their lives and most importantly, the children will be free from the marital conflict that was the basis for the divorce in the first place.

The old adage about boys being harder hit with divorce than girls is more myth than fact. Boys tend to externalize their frustrations and will show expressions and anger, whereas girls will internalize frustrations and this may cause disruptions in routines and/or some forms of actual physical sickness.

t’s common to hear that children will show depression and or difficulty with school or authority after a divorce. But usually these behaviors, particularly ones linked to behavioral problems or disorders like depression, had already rooted themselves prior to the divorce and are a product of the marital conflict and not the actual divorce.

Child’s reactions to the processes of the divorce and the divorce itself will be based off three main things, which is one: the relationship of the children with both parents prior to the actual divorce beginning, the intensity of the divorce proceedings and the parents’ behaviors towards each other, and the parents’ ability to focus on the needs of the children during the divorce proceedings.

To know that one third of teenagers who experienced divorce did not believe that it was a constructive action in their lives.

These cases most often involve substantial turbulence and/or disruption during the actual divorce proceedings, and then subsequent unhealthy practices between the parents thereafter. Again, I’m. I’m the Tulsa Fathers Rights lawyer. As part of my series on divorce for men, this was a little bit on how children respond to divorce.